How Accommodating Others Damages Your Business and Your Wellbeing

July 19, 2014 | 0

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Accommodating others is a common reason that entrepreneurs lose focus on their businesses and slowly (or never) get what they really want.

Clues can be found in the stories you tell yourself such as “I’m responsible for helping my children-spouse-parents-my team FIRST then I’ll do what I want.” or “I’m responsible for helping others in my family change.”

If you are not asking yourself, “what would I really love?” and directing your focus from your own inner compass then you are simply off-track. 

Ignoring your real desires and feelings for the sake of others is self-deception.

Let me explain.

I love the Gandhi quote, “Integrity is when your thoughts, your words, and your actions are in alignment.” Like the structure of a house, the structure of your business and your life is formed by alignment of your thoughts, your words, and your actions… In other words, the road to authentic success is self-acceptance, which is alignment of your thoughts, your words, and your actions to what you’d really love. So agreeing for the sake of accommodating others at your own expense is a tragic loss of free will and cuts you off from the source of your real power!

It goes like this…

When you ignore your real desires and feelings, the next step is to blame others because you are not being honest about what you really want, which results in guilt, shame, and confusion. Also, it sets you up because you can never measure up to the expectations of others. You can only set and honor your own expectations. If you are accommodating others to live up to their expectations, you will never have the life you love from this place.

For those of you who are familiar with Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The Four Agreements, this is agreement #1: Be Impeccable With Your Word.

You will fully accept yourself as will others when you honor your own desires FIRST. The real you is the authentic you. The authentic you is always speaking to you in the form of your real heart’s desires. Ignoring this is a costly mistake as what is suppressed has to be expressed through you in some way, such as frustration, illness, boredom, confusion, (to name a few) and ultimately an unfulfilled life.

The world is a reflection of your level of self-love. Love yourself by honoring what you really want and use the overflow to give to others. One of my favorite sayings is “you can’t pour from a empty pitcher.” So true! Fill your pitcher by honoring your truth. The truth after all will set you free.

To quote Shakespeare, “To thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.”

Ultimately, I believe the only real choice is to align with your divine path as the authentic you because if you keep accommodating everyone else, everyone loses including you! If you choose to align to your divine path, you simply need to learn how to close the gap in your understanding and start living as the Authentic Crystal Clear You. This is the path of the trailblazer, the Authentic Crystal Clear You that manifests More Clients. More Money. AND More Life!

You can have what you truly want. I believe in you.

If you are ready to learn more, join me for my interview on the Denise Elizabeth Bryon Radio Show on Sunday night, July 20th at 10pm EST / 7pm PST.  I’ll be discussing the 3 Common Mistakes that Keep You Accommodating Others & Stop You from Being Your Best Self.

Do you find yourself accommodating others at your own expense and lose focus on what you’d love as a result?

If so, I’d love to talk to you! I’m looking for people to interview so that I can enhance my marketing and communications. If you are an entrepreneur that is looking to become a recognized expert in your field and are experiencing challenges that you are willing to share with me, I’d love to speak with you. All interviews will take place via telephone and will be limited to 30 minutes. The sole purpose of the interviews will be information gathering only. If you are interested, please e-mail me at crystal@crystalclearyou.com 

Love and Success,

Crystal (Blue)

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Crystal Davis is founder of Crystal Clear Solutions, a company devoted to teaching and coaching professionals around the world how to engage their passion, cast their vision, and live a fulfilling life. Through her workshops, courses, programs, and products, Crystal shows professionals how to express themselves fully in their careers and build the life of their dreams.